Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Tombstone Tuesday: Maternal Grandparents

Photos by Brian Zoldak, 2016, used with permission
(These headstones are much clearly photographed than mine.)

My Maternal Grandparents
(Elm Grove Cemetery History)
Blog post #1

When I decided to photograph the gravestones of my ancestral families, I didn't realize that I was going to get so involved with it. I didn't have a plan at all! I just wanted to get them recorded and to leave behind, in my records, the name of the cemetery and where "my people" were buried. I started the day I buried my mother, who was the daughter of these people in this photograph. It was a focused, purposeful start to my "modern genealogy". That was in 2002.

Evans and Jo were my rock. As you can see, these are their headstones. It is a long time between 1955 and 1992. When we buried my grandmother's ashes, we had to wait until spring. I didn't know that cemeteries did that. My husband, my parents and my daughter were with me the day we buried her ashes. It was just a graveside service. The headstones were already in place and my mother had contacted a carver to add the date. My mother was not in the mood to answer questions, so I started a list in the car on the way home. 

Prior to this, it was both of my families, paternal and maternal, to go to the cemetery near or on Memorial Day. My grandmother was very good at explaining that my grandfather's parents and grandparents were buried there too. She told me that Grandpa was buried in a casket but she wanted to be cremated. Under no circumstances was I to waste money putting their names on the back side of the big Denison monument. "Yes", grandma, I said, obediently. 

Later, when I took photographs of all of the people in that section, I found out why she said that and that will be part of my next blog post.

This is the "Denison" section of Elm Grove Cemetery, Mystic, New London, Connecticut.
Photos by Brian Zoldak, 2016, used with permission

Saturday, October 01, 2016

About Collaboration

Friday, September 30, 2016

Memorial Bench and Farewell

Photo by Brian Zoldak, 2014, used with permisson

Memorial Bench

As I write this final blog post for this cemetery, I realize that this dedication bench is part of the very first cemetery I blogged about in 2006. So, the circle is complete. I think Warren is buried there because there is a headstone. Warren was my cousin and was born in 1901 and died in 1991. His wife is listed as Mabel BOWMAN and they were married in 1930. I don't know if this woman named Margaret is a second wife or not.

While researching this bench, I have discovered that there is a lot of Fish information that I didn't have, listed in the second volume of the Gallup (2009) Genealogy, so I can't put away the books as yet.

This project would not have been possible without the expert photographs of Brian Zoldak and his own research on them. With over 100 gravestones in this cemetery, I knew it would take him a lot of time to photograph them (to his satisfaction) and a couple of years for me to write the blog posts. Thank you Brian.

I will be taking some time off from this blog but I will be back. Fred Burdick has allowed me to use the photos on his CDs and I'd like to put those photos in this blog. First, I must move them because they are on CD and this may be the last computer I own with a CD/DVD drive. I have a USB based portable drive but I don't know how long that will last. Nothing lasts forever.

Farewell to the Gallup Cemetery and a peaceful rest to those who are buried here. I have enjoyed visiting with them and learning about their lives. Thanks for sticking with me, dear readers, and I will write more very soon.

Nathan and Kathleen Pearson

Photo by Brian Zoldak, 2014, used with permission
President and Host of the Gallup Family Association

Nathan Williams PEARSON was born 26 Nov 1911 and died 11 Jun 2002 was married to Kathleen Patricia McMURTY who was born 10 Feb 1917 and died 14 Mar 2012 were married 9 April 1947. He was the President of the Gallup Family Association and hosted, at the house next to this cemetery, the annual reunion. 

As you can see there is a beautiful granite monument in the cemetery dedicated to him. Their individual gravestones are here and match each other and are simple in design and fit in with the style of this cemetery. They rest together at the end of Row 6 in a shady spot.

I have been to two family reunions at this location and I have walked through this cemetery many times. At the beginning of this project, I emphasized that this is a cemetery on private land. It is well maintained by the Gallup Family Association. 

Joseph, Edward, Emily and Lucy Gallup

Photos by Brian Zoldak, 2014, used with permission (gravestones 97-100)
Children of Deac. Avery Gallup and his wife Mary Haley

Crop of Hale Cemetery Index for family of Avery Gallup
These are the children of Deac. (Capt.) Avery Gallup and his second wife Mary. I cropped this page from the Hale Cemetery Records to make sure that I could read the dates and to check the Gallup (2009) Genealogy to see that they were transcribed correctly.

I made this collage because I think this is a good example of the change in style of gravestones for one family. Lucy (the gravestone on the right) lived a long life as a single woman and can be found in the 1920 census living in Providence, RI with her niece, Mary, schoolteacher, who was the daughter of Giles Albert Williams and Mary Gallup, granddaughter of Giles Williams and Fanny Maria Gallup. 

Emily's gravestone is the one with the lovely saying, "Always lovely and all loved her", lived until she was 28. Edward, the third gravestone from the left, lived until the age of 20. 

Joseph's gravestone can no longer be read, but it must have been readable in the 1930s during the Hale Cemetery Transcription project and it says he died at age 7 months and 23 days. The fact that his gravestone is as large as the others (and not a small infant gravestone) shows that this was a prominent family and wanted all their gravestones to be the same size.

This family has other children that survived and are not buried here namely Anna Gallup who married Maj. Jacob Lorenzo Gallup, and Simeon Gallup who married Lillie Taylor.

From Avery Gallup's first marriage, William Avery Gallup and his sister, Elizabeth Gallup lived to adulthood and married. There may be living descendants of the adult children that survived.

Wednesday, September 28, 2016

Capt Avery Gallup and wives

Captain Avery GALLUP and wives Melinda and Mary
(his gravestone reads Deacon)

Photo by Brian Zoldak, 2014, used with permission
Photo by Brian Zoldak, 2104, used with permssion
Photo by Brian Zoldak, 2014, used with permission
Capt. Avery Gallup (#1315 p. 315) is buried with his two wives and several children in  the Gallup Cemetery in Ledyard, New London, CT.  Capt. Avery, (Isaac, Benadam, Benadam, Benadam, John, John) was my first cousin, 6 times removed.  

His first wife Melenda (Melinda) BAILEY died young, at 26 years old, on 12 Oct 1828, leaving him with two small children to raise. It is not known who her parents were (her father is listed as "R") as her marriage record in the Barbour Index just indicates she was "of Groton" at the time of her marriage in 1822 to Capt. Avery Gallup. Her gravestone is carved with a weeping willow and he mourned for her. She died in 1828 not in 1830 was it states in the Gallup (2009) genealogy. She was born sometime in 1802-1803 as calculated by her death date. Normally, I don't use this method of finding a birth date.

He married 2nd,  Mary HALEY on 13 Mar 1834, whose parents were Stephen Haley, Sr. and Lucy Gallup (#1308, p. 316) which means he married his cousin as her mother Lucy (Benadam, Benadam, Benadam, Benadam, John, John) was a Gallup descendant. Lucy was my 5th great aunt.  

He was a blacksmith and a farmer and Deacon of the First Baptist Church of Groton (for 22 years). His second wife, Mary, outlived him by many years and died in 1891. 

Capt. Avery Gallup was born on 6 Apr 1796 and died on 4 Nov 1864.  The placement of this family in Row 6, so far back in the cemetery, and not with the gravestones of an earlier period, may be because this family needed a whole row for those that died.

Darwin and Ruth Wood GALLUP

Photo by Brian Zoldak, 2014, used with permission (gravestone #93)
Darwin C. and Ruth (Wood) GALLUP)

Darwin Colburn GALLUP's wife Ruth Eleanor WOOD may still be living and this couple had three children, all born in Connecticut, as listed in the Gallup Genealogy (2009) on page 1060. Darwin is Gallup # 6955. The couple were married in Foxboro, MA on 19 Apr 1940. It does say that his wife was born in Providence, RI. 

My grandparents may have known this couple. My grandmother told me that she had known several cousins of my grandfather and that not all of them were Denison descendants.

Darwin was cremated at Swan Point Cemetery but as you can see he has a dual gravestone with his wife Ruth here in the Gallup Cemetery #19 in Ledyard, New London, CT,

Born in Leominister, MA on the date on his gravestone to parents Charles William Gallup and Marjorie Brooks COLBURN, he was the only son and he had a sister (p. 845-846 of the Gallup (2009) genealogy. 

Darwin graduated from Duke University in 1936 with a bachelor's degree in Business Administration. He was employed by several insurance companies. He was a Mason of the Moriah Lodge #15 in Brooklyn, CT. His father, Charles was a distinguished Mason.

Darwin's photo can be found in the Duke University Yearbook at Ancestry.com. He died of a Cerebral Infarction in 1980.

Tuesday, September 27, 2016

Elisha Lloyd Gallup

Photo by Brian Zoldak, 2014, used with permission, (Grave #92)

Photo by Brian Zoldak, 2014, used with permission

Elisha Lloyd GALLUP

Elisha has two gravestones. One was provided by the military and one is for he and his wife (whose name is on the gravestone but as she is still living, Brian correctly removed her name in the photograph) He is buried at the beginning of Row #6 in the Gallup Cemetery. Having two gravestones is not as unusual as you might think. Many people have their name and birth date on a family stone, and then enter the service and it is up to the family to finish the ending date and enter any wives or children.

Elisha was the President of the Gallup Family Association from 1981-1990) As you can see by the military gravestone, he served in the Vietnam War. The current Gallup Genealogy tells us that he served from 1965 to 1966. 

Repost: James Scott PEARSON

Photo  by Brian Zoldak, 2014, used with permission (Grave #105)
James Scott PEARSON
reposted from a previous time

"In Loving Memory/ of / James Scott / Pearson / May 29, 1949/ April 29, 1971"

James Scott Pearson 11 (Nathan Williams Pearson 10, Elizabeth Carr Williams 9, Nathan Gallup 8, Fanny Maria Gallup7, Lodowick6, Nathan5, Benadam4, Benadam3, John2, John1)

James Scott Pearson was the son of Nathan Williams Pearson and Kathleen Patricia McMurty. Lived in Swickly, PA

Gallup Genealogy [2009] #7953, page 972

James Scott's grandfather, Nathan Williams was a past President of the Gallup Family Association.

Repost: Emily GALLUP

Photo by Brian Zoldak, 2014, used with permission, Grave # 102

reposted from a previous time
Emily10 (Jacob9, Anna Gallup8, Avery7, Isaac6, Benadam5, Benadam4, Benadam3, John2, John1) was the oldest child of Jacob Gallup and Edna Caroline Slack and she was born 25 Nov 1902 and died 25 Sept 1996 at Backus Hospital in Norwich, CT. She was buried in October of 1996 next to her parents.

Emily was a licensed optician, member of the Order of Eastern Star, the Gallup Family Association and the Central Baptist Church. She lived in Norwich in the Laurel Hill section. Emily was single and an educated woman.

Gallup Genealogy [2009] #6023, page 733